What Does Birth feel like ? And how to overcome negative birth stories!

Hey Beautiful Ladies, so lets get into it!

Prior to expecting Zachariah , I use to be so insecure with birth and pregnancy! As young as 20 years old I use to think I could never have kids, let alone finding out I am so fertile!

My ultimate insecurity from such a a young age , came from having bad period pains!

I know right? my sound a little stupid! But let me walk you through my mindset at that time, and why I came to such conclusion! I thought to myself ''well if my periods are so painful? how can I manage birth and pregnancy?

Watching 1 born every minute and women stating comments such as '' this is the worst ever and I am never having a child again'' , did not make me feel entirely comfortable! but here we are!

As soon as I was pregnant with Zachariah, I began to be more positive and self regulate such positive thoughts! Supportive women around me and midwives would encourage me and state things such as '' So many women get pregnant again , so surely this cannot be the worst thing''?

As women we hear so many horror stories, and I am sure you have horror stories among your friends and family. Within my family or wider circle I have heard of devasting news of women passing away after birth or having emergency c-sections! But I learned to believe in '' positive mindsets and staying on track! Instead I ensured I delved into deep prayer ( Christian based)

, divine prayer, bible studies and affirmations everyday! Even if you are not Christian , begin to think of '' The best only being available to you''! You are not on this planet to be destined for failure , torment. But you are here as a testimony and to have the most Beautiful Birth!

Many of the women in fact who had experienced horror stores, had undiagnosed health issues which were overlooked! This is why it is important to stay on top of your appointments and listen to your body!

Note: Nobody knows and understands your body more than Mama!

So breathe relax, pray and be positive! If you are not religious or follow Christ, feel free to follow methods which makes you feel relaxed, positive and motivated! This may be gentle exercise, music or your own form of meditation !

About the Birth feeling!

My sister in Law told me at the time'' the ring of fire'' I was thinking what on Earth is the ring of fire? Well my Beautiful Mama's '' the ring of fire'' refers to the burning sensation when babies head is transcending down into your pelvis and moving out your below parts! With both Zachariah and Malachi the overall birth was not bad, however the initial stage of the head coming out, during natural birth , was definitely testing times! It felt like it was a little on fire below but lasted only for so long! I just wanted to give you the heads up!

I can confirm , once this phase is over, the remaining baby/body comes out in a way which is so seamless, ready and smooth!

The rest is history: Keep your below parts nice and cool with perineal cooling packs for relief, ensure you are drinking regularly so help the bleeding become clear!

Mama New,

Ceo , Tremaine Mahalia